tact: implies delicate and considerate perception of what is fit or appropriate under given circumstances: use ~ when inquiring about the divorce. （delicate敏感小心讲技巧，有2个意思，1.脆弱易损=fragile 2. 需要技巧小心敏感体察,即微妙精致showing or needing skill, care or sensitivity，如I admired your delicate handling of the situation我赞赏你应付局面的技巧） （considerate体谅体贴: 指考虑照顾他人情感或痛苦stresses concern for the feelings or distresses of others，如a manner both courtly and considerate举止恭敬而体贴）(tact直接来自法语，法语中表示触碰触觉，本身也是词根TACT/TANG，如contact接触,tactile触觉的,tangible可触碰的有形的,tangent正切的离题的。人际交往需要像指尖fingertips一样极度敏感extremely sensitive，林肯说"tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves"评价他人时符合他的心意---即对自己的看法。有技巧的人可以安抚最难相处的人a tactful person can soothe the feelings of the most difficult people，没有技巧笨拙的人很可能让情况更糟a tactless person will generally make a bad situation worse因为他们不会像指尖一样体察他人情感，情商低)




address: stresses dexterity and grace in dealing with new and trying situations and may imply success in attaining one's ends: brought off her first dinner party with remarkable ~.     （grace有2个意思，1.优美优雅implies a movement that is smooth, elegant, and controlled形容"动作"流畅雅致控制得体,如she moves with the natural grace of a ballerina她的动作像芭蕾演员一样自然优雅优美 2文雅高雅，形容"言行举止"有礼貌让人喜欢尊重，也可以说成有风度，如he conducted himself with grace and dignity throughout the trial他在整个审讯过程中表现得文雅而有尊严，词组social graces社交礼节）



poise: implies both tact and address but stresses self-possession and ease in meeting difficult situations: the ~ of one who has been officiating all his life.  （self-possession镇定自如implies perfect self-control and command of one's powers under stress面对压力能很好的把控自己，如answered the insolent question with complete self-possession镇定地回答无礼的提问）  officiate是official动词，表示任职履职主持，如本例



savoir faire: is likely to stress worldly experience and a sure awareness of what is proper or expedient in various situations: has little of the ~ expected of a Washington hostess. 不要写成hostress.        (worldly世间，即关注人生幸福implies a devotion to happiness in this world，如chose to focus on worldly concerns选择关注世事)



tact技巧: 指人际交往时会观察他人情绪感受，能够做到合适得体，address娴熟优雅:  指应对困难时娴熟优雅并取得成功，poise镇定自如: 表示技巧和娴熟，但强调应对困难时镇定自如，savoir faire处世能力: 强调有处世经验，各种情况下都知道怎样妥当有效(expedient权宜，短期有效果但长期效果欠佳)



记忆方法： 1）首字母TAPS轻敲<==要有技巧    （tap轻拍轻敲to hit with a quick light blow，如he tapped me on the back他轻轻拍了下我的后背）

           2）练习一下        


           3）技巧的意思是与人交往时优雅有技巧mean skill and grace in dealing with others.首字母TAPS轻敲<==要有技巧